This past week we welcomed Dr. Steven Hickman to lead us in a Self-Compassion and Mindfulness workshop over Zoom! Dr. Hickman is a clinical psychologist and retired associate clinical professor at the University of California San Diego School of Medicine, as well as the founding director of the UC San Diego Center for Mindfulness.
Dr. Steven Hickman, Clinical Psychologist, UCSD School of Medicine
Dr. Hickman first led us in a meditation exercise where we practiced being aware of our bodies and feelings in the moment. After the short exercise, we talked about the role of our inner critic. While having an inner critic may be helpful in keeping us accountable or motivated to our goals, research shows that the inner critic makes us less likely to try again when we fail or something doesn’t go our way. The inner critic can be harsh and can actually hurt us more than help us in times of need.
To combat our inner critic, Dr. Hickman described 3 components of self-compassion to consider:
Mindfulness: The first step is noticing when you are suffering. Taking a step back and noticing when you’re not at your best is the most crucial step in giving what your body needs.
Recognition: It is important to recognize yourself as a person and see your circumstance as part of being human. We must recognize that every human being falls short and makes mistakes.
Self-Kindness: Ask yourself “What do I need at this moment? Can I give myself what I need?” Asking ourselves these questions will help give direction to how to relieve the tension or pain we may be experiencing.
Studies show that, with practice, one CAN be more self-compassionate overtime. Self-compassion is also important in our journeys as students, and plays a crucial role in the development of health care professionals. So, the next time you hear your inner critic, ask it: “Is there some way you are trying to help me?” If not, consider taking steps to find ways to encourage yourself and give yourself the love that you would give to a friend in need.
For more on past research on the benefits of self-compassion, check out self.compassion.org.
You can also check out Dr. Hickman’s book here!
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